Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Things I've Learned About Myself Since Starting a Blog or This Post Sounded Better in My Head
I've been nominated for an award! (Thanks Laura!)
And while I really appreciate the gesture, I have mixed feelings about this.
I'm fairly new at this whole blogging thing, so I'm unsure what the proper etiquette for these awards is. Is it acceptable to NOT accept an award? Or is that rude? Let me explain my reasoning behind this one, and it mainly lies in the requirements for accepting, specifically #3: Nominate 15 newly discovered blogs.
First of all, I'm not sure that I actually even follow 15 other blogs, let alone newly discovered ones. A stipulation to nominating other blogs is that you have to let that person know that they were nominated. Here's my issue. I have a total of 4 followers, two of which are family members, one being the person who already nominated me, and the fourth being a totally random stranger. So any of the blogs that I would be nominating would not know that I had actually nominated them unless I went over to their blogs and left them a comment telling them so. And call me crazy, but to me, that just seems like I'm setting myself up for disappointment. I can just imagine what they would be thinking after reading my comment:
Oh. Someone nominated me for an award. Cool. But who is this Krista chick? Oh. She's another "Mommy Blogger". And not a very funny one at that. In fact, her blog is kind of lame. And sporadic. I don't think that I'll be following this blog any time soon. Look, she only has 4 followers. See? She is kind of lame. But wait, who is this One Blonde Girl chick? She looks pretty interesting. Oh, she IS. Now THIS is a funny and entertaining blog. I'll definitely be following HER.....
And then of course all of their gazillion followers are going to click on my name and check out my blog for curiosity's sake and discover the same thing for themselves. And I will still only have 4 followers.
When I started this blog a few months ago, I was inspired by the success of other blogs that I had been following (like, this one, and this one, and this one). I thought to myself, Hey, I can totally do this! This looks easy! I can write. I'm funny. I'm just as witty as these other people are. Yeah, well, it turns out that I'm not. And it's NOT as easy as it looks. This shit is hard! Here's what I've learned since starting this blog:
1. I'm not as funny in real life as I am in my head. I have so many funny/witty stories and ideas and one-liners floating around in my head, but they never seem to find their way into my actual posts. Or maybe I just THINK that they're funny and entertaining, but then when I actually see it in print, yeah, not so much.
2. I have permanent writer's block. I have pages upon pages upon pages of posts "written up" in my head, but I just can't seem to get them to come out. As soon as I sit down to type up a post, my mind goes blank and it takes me hours for just one 5-paragraph post! Or I'll start writing what is supposed to be about one thing, but have it turn into something completely different by the end. Or I have so many incomplete thoughts and ideas that my initial purpose for the post never comes to fruition!
3. Followers are hard to come by. They don't just appear overnight. Apparently you have to work for them; you have to EARN followers. I have yet to figure out how to do that other than to comment on other people's blogs and hope that they are curious enough to check out mine and enjoy it enough to follow it. So far, no such luck.
4. This takes time that I just don't have. I think to have a truly successful blog, you have to have a lot of time and motivation to keep it up. I don't have either. I don't really get a chance to get on the computer to type up a post until at least 10 o'clock at night, and who wants to be sitting in front of a computer typing up a blog that late? Not me! I've got other things that I need to be doing first; (Hello! my frontier* isn't going to clear itself, folks!) And I'm usually too tired to think that late at night. And then there's the photos. You have to remember to take them, then upload them to the computer, then edit them, and finally add them to the posts. By the time I even get around to starting a post, it's already 11 o'clock!
5. It's not as fun as I thought it would be. In fact, it feels a lot like work. When I started this blog, in my mind I had the unrealistic image that I would be trading stories with other mommies, swapping tips and recipes, encouraging people to try things that I've recommended etc. But this is a lot less fun than I thought it would be. I am practically forcing myself to sit down and write anything just to have something to post. And where's the fun in that?
I'm not really sure how much longer I'm going to be able to keep up this blog. Lack of interest and feedback (followers) is very uninspiring. Kudos to those of you who are a lot more successful at this!
*For those of you who are unfamiliar with this, it's a reference to the game FrontierVille on Facebook. Yeah, I know, I'm pathetic. :-)